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Kitchen Music

I spend a lot of time in my wee kitchen.

I live in an 850 sq. ft apartment in one of the most expensive parts of the Metro-Phoenix area: North Scottsdale. This is not my first choice of location but it’s 10 minutes from my husbands job, which also happens to be our church and so we make it work. We don’t go out to eat very often, I try and make a lot of staples here at home…

and so I spend a lot of time in my wee kitchen.

And so I have learned the rhythms of my stove, my mixer, the meals I make there.

The best way to make my kitchen seem larger than it is, is to have some fabulous music playing while I work. Really! Finding a rhythm in a song that matches the rhythm in my tiny workspace allows me to dance and sing while I knead and mix. It’s a soothing exercise, and I never recommend cooking without a good soundtrack!

We are making bread early this week (Thursday is our usual baking day), I traded a lovely friend a loaf for a big bag of lettuce from their garden! FABULOUS!

We are also shaking our flour dusted booties to The Punch Brothers album, Antifogmatic. Chris Thile is a genius and I like everything he does, from Nickel Creek to Goat Rodeo. And this is no exception.

Enjoy some kitchen music of your own with Don’t Need No



Every now and then bloggers give their readers a glimpse into the daily bits and bobs that make up their days…I quite enjoy it and so I thought I would share a little bit of our day with you as well. (hover over the pictures for what time it is and some other little details!)

8:30 am...sleeping in!

Rise and Shine!

Breakfast nook with a view of leftover renewal flowers!

Primping and Teaching! "Will it float?"

Will it float and making boats...

Lunch Prep...


still nice enough to use watercolors on the back porch

a mustache!

Everybody gets a little snack!


a little nest for "quiet time"


My smallest little turned one on the 7th.

He is to be my last baby…as far as we know. It took us almost 4 years to get him and he is just perfect. We celebrated his first trip around the sun with a small party, he devoured his cupcake as readily as he devours any and all food we put in front of him.

He has been taking steps, 2 here, 4 there. The first in thousands of steps that will take him out into the world. His eyes remain a lovely greeny blue shade, they change with his moods, with the weather. He is even tempered and smiley. He has a dimple in his left cheek.

He is my wee buggy. And I am so lucky I am his Mama.


Miss Jess and the Bird

if you’re a parent, you’ve heard the phrase (often to the point of inanity) “it takes a village to raise a child”. Coming from a huge family (Mexican-Irish-Catholic, I have a lot of relatives) this concept was not lost on me when I had my son. Family dinners and carpools, shared discipline and food. My parents were never alone in the ups and downs of parenting, and I have many fond memories of late nights listening to them talk with their friends and siblings, playing hearts and drinking wine.

I live fairly far from my extended, often fractious family. My parents divorced shortly before I did and shortly after my last remaining grandparents passed away. My extended family had a lot of heartbreak in very short amount of time and never quite recovered from that hard year. Our gatherings now are fewer but no less lavish in love. I am grateful that I am so close with my multitudinous cousins, close enough with a few that we see each other much more regularly than holidays (my cousin has a son a year younger than my oldest). I am even more grateful that my sister and I weathered the storms of divorce and death and remain incredibly tight. She lives in San Francisco and I miss her terribly but we talk almost every day on the phone and she adores her nephews and brother in law.

Because of this distance, emotional and geographical, we have had to build our own village to help us manage the ups and downs of parenting our children. It is a marvelous village, made up of dear friends from college (and in one case much MUCH earlier!), other young families we met at church and loved instantly, college students we mentor and a few wise women and men who’s babies are long grown with babies of their own. Many of these villagers share our faith, a comfort to me, a new Christian and the only member of my blood family to wear that title, many of them have similar stories to ours, a surprise pregnancy followed by a lovely marriage, but many of them have lives very different from ours, and we are so grateful for the broad variety of wonderful people we have in our children’s lives.

I know, to gushy. To touchy feely. I made myself faintly ill just then.

One of these people was unexpected. That’s her in the picture up there. She’s 20, and loves my kids. Has more patience than I have at almost 30, is curious about everything and incredibly smart. Babysits for free! Wears awesome hippie clothes and has tattoos, loves Jesus and is a vegetarian. She was the first person I met who couldn’t eat gluten. I’ve known her since she was 18 and from the first day we met we have been fast friends despite our almost 10 year age difference. She comes over often just to sit on my couch and fold my laundry with me and chat, or comes over on baking day despite not being able to eat what I’m making…

and she is leaving on Friday for Australia. For 4 months she is going to live across the world from us. I am excited for her and sad to see her go.

Our village is getting a little smaller…but a whole lot better traveled.




12.13 – 1130 hours

Birdie (4.5), Buggy (10 months) and Mama (almost 30)

“Birdie? Do you think I’m a good mom?”

“I sink you a gwate mom”

what is it about parenting and it’s countless highs and lows and second guesses and reassurances? Why on earth do we choose this life of taking care of little lives? How does this life choose us? Because, let’s be clear, having done this 4 times over, the first times these new souls chose me, but then I chased after them. Keeping littles is terribly overwhelming and incredibly beautiful, and just when you come up gasping for air they take your breath away again.

Buggy at 8 months, in the sling

I struggled (I struggle!) with mothering.Certainly not the loving and accepting of my children, because they are easy to love, easy to rejoice in.

But I struggle with the nuance of it, the everyday practicality. I struggle with the feeling that I am doing everything wrong, and my children will never forgive me, and more than that, that my children will never bloom into the wonderful people I know they will be. I struggle with the fact that I was handed children, that we are all handed children who initially can’t answer the simple questions: “what is wrong? how can I help you?”, I struggle with the mandated selflessness that comes with raising children (oh eating breakfast right when I was hungry, how I miss you) and I wonder what that makes me.

Everyday I think: “Am I a wonderful mother yet? Am I doing a good job?”

Sleeping Bird

And then, late one Monday night around 10:30, after a day of adventures, and an evening of meltdowns with 3 or 4 instances of shouting (from me and the bird AND the buggy) and another night of my husband working late, one random Monday I turn to my oldest son, the child who chose me when I was least expecting it, and I ask him:

“Birdie? do you think I am a good mom?”

and he smiles, touches my face and whispers, in his little wee birdie voice:

“I sink you a gwate mom”

And in that moment, I am.